Experiences and concerns
Some of the lessons we learn in life can be passed on to our children,
both personal and professional. Here, I do my exercise.
College professor
After taking several courses (Geography, History, Music), I graduated in law and did two master's degrees: Law (Mackenzie) and Political Science (USP) and published two books in the area.
"Being a teacher brought me closer to the divine, but the function carries something arrogant that needs to be watched. Teaching requires care."
Attorney
I worked in civil, administrative and criminal cases. I worked in one of the most renowned law firms in Brazil, serving large companies and the Federal Government.
"ifr lawyer removes all naivety and shows you that human beings can be cruel even when it cries out for justice."
youtuber
I created the"Facilitating the Law" to explain the law in a simple and uncomplicated way to those who were not in the area. There were more than 30 videos with different themes.
"The impersonality of the internet makes contact with people fragile because it removes the responsibility of looking into their eyes."
Motoboy
Arriving in London, I had to adapt to the conditions and work as a motorcycle courier in the early hours, which gave me the freedom to take care of my daughter during the day.
"Experience has proven that when we have a clear life project in mind, the effort used day by day becomes honorable."
Entrepreneur
I was an employee and owner of a bakery, gyms, food supplement stores. I was a coach of athletes and manager of events at the Paulista Bodybuilding Federation.
"Dealing with the public helps to better understand people's needs and the difficulty of dealing with them."
Model
There were more than 15 commercials, in addition to billboards, editorials and fashion shows. The agency was Ford Models, the same as famous names like Luana Piovani and Ana Paula Arósio.
"The world of fashion contains the extremes of our self-image. Sometimes you see yourself as a 'hanger', sometimes as a celebrity."
Musician
Rocker and aspiring guitarist since I was 14, I only managed to learn at 30, and only against bass. The band reached have your music played on KISS FM, a radio station in São Paulo.
"I was happy as a musician, but I learned that certain things have to be experienced at the right time to be able to bring us to ecstasy."
Tying the ends of life
My creation
Survival lessons were diluted in everyday life without the need for words. The values were passed on like someone tattooing someone's body. The culture gave way to the message that it was to be pursued, as ignorance was known. Could it have been different, here and there? Perhaps.
The experience
But the question was not about the merits or demerits of my upbringing, but rather the experience I had as a son and how this experience could serve me in this unknown role as a father. Yes, because the mature reflection on my upbringing and how it affected me emotionally could change the perception I have as a son, on the other hand, now more importantly, influence the way I would think about my daughter's upbringing. So it wasn't about stopping thinking like a son to start thinking like a father.
The son exits and the father enters.
It was about tying the two ends of life, in search of improvement. It was about finding the best version of myself to deliver to my daughter, just like my parents did to me. By the way, it was in the midst of this psychological context that I decided to create a kind of "instruction manual for life", dedicated to and inspired by the still small Nathalia.
a legacy
It so happens that on the way I came across another lesson in humanity: that I am not alone on this journey. Many other fathers and mothers are constantly looking for their best versions, out of love for their children. The final conclusion is that life really is a constant learning process that unites all of us, parents and children. But there is one detail: it is still up to us to break this news to them. I start here and now. Get inspired!
I wanted to be a Rock Star
Throughout my teens and early teens I was a fanatical rocker and aspiring guitar player.
What I really wanted was to be a rock star. ("Wouldn't it dream of many? What influences us?")
My room and my fake guitar
My room was full of posters of rock bands. AC/DC, Kiss, Iron Maiden and others could be seen taped to the wall ("It is in the privacy of our room that we expresses our personality."). It was 1985 and I was 13 years old when I took some old wood and cut it into the shape of a guitar. I put some wires imitating the ropes and an old belt as a handle. So I'd lock myself in my room, play the Black Sabbath record really loud and shake my head back and forth pretending to be a guitar player.
my first tattoo
At the age of 14 I got a tattoo on my shoulder with a makeshift machine from a friend of mine. It was the symbol of Jimmy Page, guitarist of Led Zeppelin. It looked like a "convict" tattoo, but anyone who knew the symbol knew it was Rock'n'Roll. I did it hidden from my parents because they wouldn't let me do it if I asked "Was this the limit of my rebellion?). The tattoo was important to me because it showed how much I liked rock music and made me look like a bad boy, which helped to keep away the older boys who used to beat up the younger ones ("How to deal with the bullying?").
My hair was my identity
Every day I looked in the mirror to see if my hair was longer. At that time, there were few rockers and anyone with long hair was recognized and respected. But I faced a problem. I already worked with my father and he withheld my salary until I cut my hair a little. Hated it ("Should have fought for this 'identity'?").
my tribe
There was a small rock house in town where local rockers would meet on weekends. I went whenever I could. I only wore T-shirts with drawings of rock bands that I painted myself. I even sold some. Since I was the youngest, all the rockers liked me. Even the city punks ("Why do we need to belong to a group?").
The aspiring guitarist
I already had long hair and tattoos and I already had my tribe. But you lacked playing the guitar to be a real rock star. So I entered a music school. But it did not work. I couldn't do the position with the fingers that the teacher required (the famous eyelash) and I found the class very boring. Also, I had very little time to devote to it, so I gave up ("Good things take time and patience.").
the end of youth
Gradually, rock music became too popular among young people. Everyone said they were rockers, even though they only knew one song by each band. It wasn't so much fun for me anymore. And in order to be able to date other girls, he needed to cut his hair, stop wearing rock shirts and go to more pop places. It was time to conquer another environment, and the world of rock was a little behind. ("The environment influences our decisions and makes people rethink.")
The 30 year turnaround
I was over 30 years old when I realized that I needed to reinvent myself professionally. My small business selling vitamins was not doing very well, and I had no professional training. ("Did you think more about your career?") I considered that the world of music and rock could be an option. Maybe set up a music studio or open a little rock shop. Or maybe try again to learn an instrument and become a music teacher.
I chose to learn against bass instead of guitar because I didn't require the "eyelash" position. This time I had to be more dedicated. I bought an instrument, learned to read a little sheet music and entered a music university. The idea was to become a professional musician, but I didn't stay a year because all the students already played an instrument very well and were only there to get a university degree. I was still learning.
Even without college I started playing in a rock band and soon after I was already in my own band ("The poet said that the path is made by walking."). I set up a little rock shop and a mini studio inside the shop I already had. My hair was already big again and my body already had many other tattoos.
We played covers from the 70s, but we also had our own songs sung in Portuguese. I wrote the lyrics. Our band played in several bars in São Paulo and our music was played on a famous rock radio station. When I saw it, I was 35 years old and had become a rock star, in my context; and my way. ("Plan put into practice; fruits reaped.")
Would it have been different if I had done all this younger? Yes definitely. Maybe if I didn't have the maturity of 30 I wouldn't have the competence to maintain a band, among other things. But what bothers me most today when looking back is a certain melancholy in not having had that experience as a teenager. Yes, because Rock'n Roll has a certain rebelliousness and irresponsibility. At 35 I was already mature and rebellion seems more like self-pity. When I shook my head, part of my bald spot was already showing in the photos; I saw no fun in getting drunk and the pain in my back wouldn't let go.
Rock, at its core, is teenage ecstasy. And being a Rock star when you're old isn't so Rock'n'Roll...
("It seems that there is a right moment to live something in all its fullness.").